Friday, June 16, 2006

Everyone wants to know why

The question I've been asked so many many times is why. I give a different reason every time I'm asked. You see, I have lots of wonderful reasons.
For instance, I believe in big families. I feel that children are best raised in large families. It makes perfect sense to me that children with lots of siblings are more generous, helpful, empathetic, and kind. Wouldn't they have to be? There is always someone who needs more, whose needs must be met first, and the others learn to wait, and take their turn. They also learn to help and to be reliable and diligent. We are lucky to have more than enough material goods. If I only had 2 or 3 children, these would be very spoiled children. Now by force the children lead more measured lives, with some care as to what is spent, and on what. The older children know not to ask for spending money, and have learned to be frugal. If we must sacrifice some leisure time, if our vacations aren't spectacular, if the children must share their bedrooms, I think we will all be the better for it. As my decorator friend says: Less is More.
And if we want a large family, doesn't it make sense to take a child from an orphanage, who would never know the love of a mother and father and the riotous joy of an army of siblings? I once read a terribly sad report from Unicef on the plight of children growing up without families. The world is full of them, sleeping on pavements, working long hours for scant wages, at the mercy of any and all potential abusers. One time I saw a picture of abandoned little children sleeping on the floor of the airport in Singapore. And airline passengers stepping around them, unconcerned. One shouldn't be unconcerned, right? Yes, money given in charity does a world of good, but one child given a family is also a whole world of good.

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